Are You the Key to a Better Relationship?

What's the main issue in your relationship? Like seriously. Be honest with yourself. I find this question very enlightening because most people will say an issue and never point the finger back at themselves. They like to say things like "we". While in a relationship this word is powerful for most areas...but not here. See in relationships ONE person has the ability to change the trajectory. ONE person has the ability to see their responsibility and own it. ONE person can set the relationship on any certain path with their behavior, words, tone, and responses. Now, don't get it mixed up, this isn't to say YOU are the only one who has a problem or are the sole creator of the issues, but it is to say you can be the sole creator of better outcomes. 

One person can resist to meet the other one in emotionally charged scenarios and can communicate effectively that allows the relationship to flow far better than being emotionally responsive and emotionally out of control. The role of the ONE person can be either the man or the woman, the main point is that someone takes that leadership role in the moment, for the benefit of the relationship. 

I can tell you that you have the ability to trigger your counterpart a certain direction for bad, and for good, but you have that ability. and it's being aware of that ability and choosing your approach based on the outcome you desire. So how are you doing in your relationship? Do you lose sight of the big picture of the relationship just because you have been around the person for so long and been with them for a while? Remember, the big picture is the love you carry for this person, the big picture is the feeling you get from them, the big picture is the joy you bring to each other. Choose the big picture to help you with your approach and leave the pettiness behind.